top of page


How Trauma Affects Your Ability to Accept Kindness
If someone offers you a genuine compliment and your first instinct is to deflect it, dismiss it, or find a reason it cannot be true; if a friend reaches out to check on you and you feel more suspicious than comforted; if someone goes out of their way to help you and you feel a wave of discomfort rather than gratitude; you are not ungrateful, and you are not broken. For many people with a history of trauma, difficulty accepting kindness is one of the most quietly painful and p
Oct 143 min read


Why Trauma Survivors Often Apologize for Having Needs
Do you apologize before asking for help? Do you preface requests with "I know this is a lot" or "sorry to bother you" even when you are asking something entirely reasonable of someone who cares about you? Do you find yourself trying to take up as little space as possible; shrinking your needs, dismissing them before anyone else can, insisting you are fine when you are not; because stating what you actually need feels dangerous, presumptuous, or simply too much? For many traum
Sep 104 min read


What Happens in Your Brain During EMDR? A Plain-Language Explanation
If you have heard of EMDR therapy but are not quite sure what it actually is or why it works, you are not alone. EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, and even that name raises more questions than it answers. What does eye movement have to do with healing from trauma? Why does following a light or a therapist's finger back and forth help someone feel less distressed by a painful memory? The answer lies in how the brain stores and processes difficult e
Aug 123 min read


Trauma and Overexplaining: The Need to Justify Yourself
For many people, the habit of overexplaining is connected to trauma: a learned response to environments where simply being yourself was not enough, or was not safe.
Jun 244 min read
bottom of page
